How to Help Kids Include Others: Simple Ways to Teach Kindness

Woodland illustration of children welcoming a friend, teaching kindness to kids through empathy, inclusion, and caring actions.

Every child wants to feel included. Yet, there are moments—on the playground, in the classroom, or during group activities—when a child may feel left out.

The good news?Kindness can be taught.

When children are given simple words and actions, they gain the confidence to include others and build meaningful friendships.

Why Teaching Kindness to Kids Matters

Learning to include others is a key part of social emotional development. It helps children:

• Build empathy

• Strengthen friendships

• Develop confidence in social situations

Small acts of kindness can make a big difference in how a child feels each day.

Teaching Kindness to Kids: What to Say When a Friend Feels Left Out

Children don’t always know what to say—but giving them language makes it easier.

Try teaching these simple phrases:

• “Do you want to play with us?”

• “You can sit with me.”

• “I’m glad you’re here.”

These words open the door to connection.

Teaching Kindness to Kids: Simple Ways Kids Can Show Kindness

Actions matter just as much as words.

Encourage children to:

• Invite someone into a game

• Sit beside someone who is alone

• Share materials or toys

These small steps help children feel seen and valued.

Teaching Kindness to Kids Every Day

Practice these phrases during calm moments—like morning meetings or family time.

When children rehearse kindness, they are more likely to use it when it matters most.

Free Activities for Teaching Kindness to Kids

To help you get started, I’ve created free kindness activities you can use right away.

These simple tools help children:

• Practice kind language

• Build confidence

• Strengthen friendships

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Teaching Kindness to Kids: A Final Thought

Teaching kindness to kids doesn't require grand gestures. It begins with one caring word, one thoughtful action, and one child who chooses to make someone else feel welcome.

When we give children the language and confidence to include others, we're helping them build empathy, strengthen friendships, and create classrooms and communities where everyone feels they belong.

Every small act of kindness has the power to brighten someone's day—and inspire another act of kindness in return.

If you're looking for more ways to encourage kindness, empathy, and confidence, explore my free activities and classroom resources designed to help children grow into caring, compassionate trailblazers.

Because every child has the power to make a difference—one kind act at a time. 💛

With kindness,

Carolyn Watkins Award-Winning Children's Author • Former Elementary Teacher